Liberation Psychology|Relationship Anarchy
Dr. L. Xochitl Vallejos
I believe in the possibility of a liberated world—one where love and relationships are grounded in consent, freedom, and collective care.
My Journey
Welcome Beloved,
I’m so honored you’ve found your way here.
In my work, I hold this truth: our freedom is woven through how we love and connect. Relationship Anarchy isn’t a niche practice — it’s the scaffolding for liberation in our relationships, families, communities, and ultimately, our world.
Here, I don’t lead with academic titles or chronicle my history. Instead, I’m guided by the vision of a world where love is non-hierarchical, consent-centered, and rooted in collective care.
As one of the few Latina therapists and coaches working explicitly at this intersection, I bring a healing lens shaped by lived experience, cultural resilience, and political consciousness. My presence isn’t separate from this work—it is the work.
In this space, you’re met with radical welcome—not because you’ve arrived, but because you are already part of the belonging we’re co-creating here.
If your relationships long for freedom, authenticity, and ethical re-imagining—let’s explore together how Relationship Anarchy can be a pathway to our collective liberation.
As a psychologist, educator, and revolutionary, I ground my work in relationship anarchy—where healing, freedom, and social transformation come together through the ways we love and connect.
Transformation
My Approach
I see relationships as liberation work. My practice is rooted in relationship anarchy: dismantling the hierarchies we inherit in love, family, and community, and building relationships grounded in consent, autonomy, and collective care. This isn’t just therapy—it’s reimagining how we live and love as an act of resistance.
What Guides My Work
My Relationship Anarchy Approach
My work is rooted in the belief that love is political—that how we relate shapes the world we live in.
Relationship Anarchy offers us tools to resist hierarchy, scarcity, and control, and to practice freedom through our connections.
This approach invites you to:
Question the scripts that tell you which bonds “count” and which don’t
Reimagine love as abundant rather than scarce
Resist ownership and hierarchy in how you connect
Honor consent, autonomy, and mutual care as the foundation of every bond
See relationships as sites of collective liberation, not private escape
Working Together
In this space, you are invited to:
Explore new ways of loving without hierarchy or control
Experiment with building chosen family and community on your own terms
Nurture relationships that expand rather than confine
Align your connections with your deepest values of freedom and justice
Imagine love as a practice of liberation—for yourself and for the world
Education
- Ph.D. in Psychology, Saybrook University (2015)
- M.A., Regis University (2004)
- B.A., Metro State University (2001)
