Liberation Psychology|Relationship Anarchy
Dr. L. Xochitl Vallejos
I believe in the possibility of a liberated world—one where love and relationships are grounded in consent, freedom, and collective care.
My Journey
It was motherhood that forged not only my revolutionary consciousness, but my insistence on liberation as the ground of love. When my child was diagnosed with a life-threatening heart defect, I collided with systems designed to control and discard us—the healthcare industry that values profit over healing, the schools that erase children with medical complexities, and the professional “experts” who dismissed my knowledge as a Latina mother.
That crucible didn’t just radicalize me; it revealed that survival requires breaking with domination in every form. Liberation is not an abstract principle—it is the daily work of refusing compliance, claiming dignity, and creating relationships rooted in consent, care, and freedom. What I lived through as a parent is the same ethic I now carry into my work: dismantling oppressive systems and reimagining how we relate, love, and organize our lives.
My Ph.D. at Saybrook University gave me language and methodology for what I already knew—that lived experience is scholarship, and that our deepest truths come from the margins. My dissertation, awarded with distinction, was not just research but testimony: knowledge born from struggle can transform not only individuals, but the structures we inherit.
As a psychologist, counselor educator, and revolutionary, my work exists at the intersection of mental health, liberation, and social transformation.
Health
Transformation
My Approach
I see relationships as liberation work. My practice is rooted in relationship anarchy: dismantling the hierarchies we inherit in love, family, and community, and building relationships grounded in consent, autonomy, and collective care. This isn’t just therapy—it’s reimagining how we live and love as an act of resistance.
What Guides My Work
My revolutionary approach integrates:
- Critical consciousness that analyzes the sociopolitical roots of personal suffering
- Alternative healing modalities often dismissed by the mainstream as “woo woo”
- Relationship liberation principles that challenge hierarchical and possessive constructs
- Spirituality as resistance against materialist paradigms that fragment our being
- Collective healing practices that build community power and resilience
Working Together
I create spaces where you can:
- Explore your authentic self without judgment
- Connect personal challenges to broader systemic contexts
- Discover holistic practices that support your wellbeing
- Build relationships that nurture rather than constrain
- Imagine and create the world you wish to see
By centering the experiences of people of the global majority, LGBTQIA+ individuals, and those practicing non-traditional relationships, our work together becomes a site of resistance and healing.
Education
- Ph.D. in Psychology, Saybrook University (2015)
- M.A., Regis University (2004)
- B.A., Metro State University (2001)
